Dr. Lindsay O'Shea You deserve a love life that doesn’t make you feel like you’re losing your mind.
Dating shouldn’t feel like decoding chaos.
Being single shouldn’t mean putting your life on hold waiting for a relationship.
Breakups shouldn’t leave you questioning everything about yourself.
Discover which approach is right for you:
UnPattern Your Relationships. Lead Yourself Differently.
UnPattern helps you recognize relational patterns, regulate your emotions, and choose differently - when it actually matters.
Heal From Heartbreak
Unsure of where to start? Take the quiz below to begin your journey.
Transform Your Solo Journey
Reconnect In Your Relationship
Enjoy Dating Again
How UnPattern Works
UnPattern is a psychology-informed framework designed to interrupt relational patterns in real time, not just help you understand them after the fact.
Instead of asking you to change who you are, UnPattern helps you change how you relate when you’re emotionally activated.
The process focuses on:
Recognizing repeating patterns
Understanding why certain moments feel intense
Regulating emotional reactivity
Choosing responses from clarity instead of urgency
Practicing new ways of relating in real life
This work isn’t about perfection.
It’s about building self-trust, emotional steadiness, and choice—across dating, relationships, breakups, and solo seasons.
Hey there, I’m Dr. Lindsay.
Clinical Psychologist. Former Date Coach, Matchmaker, and Dating App Consultant.
Helping people UnPattern their lives and reach their goals for nearly 20 years.
Let me guide you through this…
Let’s Get Through This, Together…
If you’re tired of overthinking your relationships and still ending up in the same dynamics, you don’t need more advice—you need a proven way to break the pattern.
Whether you’re brokenhearted from a fresh breakup, confused about what to text him, wondering why men disappear, casually dating but craving a commitment, or feeling “stuck” and ready to level up your life in all areas – I’ve created a customized resource that will coach you, step-by-step, to get the exact result you want.I’m the partner you’ve been looking for to help you find your partner… and yourself.
I’m Dr. Lindsay, a Clinical Psychologist, former matchmaker and date coach who has seen it all. I’ve helped hundreds of people UnPattern their love lives, build confidence and live the life they’ve dreamed.
And I’ll do the same for you.
Throughout all my research and experiences talking to hundreds of people, I realized something: people don't need better dating strategies. They need emotional clarity and to understand themselves. Whether you’re heartbroken and healing from a breakup, caught in a situationship, navigating confusing dating experiences, craving a committed relationship without losing yourself, or ready to relate more intentionally and level up in all areas - I’ve created a customized resource that will help you, step-by-step, to get the results you want.
Ready to build a life you LOVE?
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Tell Me About You.
Schedule a clarity call
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Live and Date With Confidence
Let’s Do This Together….
Ways to Work With Me
Digital Intensives
Prefer to learn at your own pace?
Watch when you’re ready. Rewatch when you need it.
Coaching Programs
Work one-on-one to map out your life and create a path forward. For when you see the pattern and want individualized, structure, accountability, and guidance applying insights in real time.
Have questions? Contact me.
Individual Therapy
Ultra personalized approach where we’ll work together to transform your life.
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UnPattern is a psychology-informed, educational program.
It is not psychotherapy and does not provide diagnosis, treatment, or mental health care.
Participation does not create a psychologist–patient relationship.
If you are experiencing significant emotional distress or require clinical support, please seek care from a licensed mental health professional.
If you are in crisis or need immediate support:
Call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room
Call or text 988 — Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
Text HOME to 741741 — Crisis Text Line